Sometimes, life gets you down. This is normal. It’s okay to feel disappointed or frustrated, even if your struggles aren’t “as bad” as someone else’s. They’re still valid. Sometimes, the best way to pick yourself back up from whatever life throws at you is to listen to solid advice from strong women who have been there—and made it through to the other side.
Marianne Williamson (spiritual teacher, author)
Right? How many times have you asked yourself, “Am I deserving? Am I worthy?” Why do we do this? Why shouldn’t we be?
Sara Blakely (businessperson, founder of Spanx)
Personally, I always seem to question myself when people ask me for my opinion on their work. I think, who am I to offer advice? What do I really know? I don’t know what I’m doing. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing! It means I can be entirely open and honest and may point out something that a fresh pair of eyes couldn’t.
Aretha Franklin (singer, icon)
And I think this quote applies whether or not you consider yourself an “artist.” No matter what you do, you should do it with confidence. That can be easier said than done, I know. Fake it if you have to. If you keep faking confidence, you’ll soon realize that one day, you’ll be confident for real.
Lucille Ball (actress, comedian, TV producer)
How many times have you wanted to take a risk, but were afraid of the outcome? (And no, “just one more episode before bed” during a Netflix marathon doesn’t exactly count here.) I mean a real risk, that could change your life for the better, but you were afraid of regret? If it’s happened more than once, you should consider changing your thought process, and making that leap. Too many opportunities are missed because we’re too afraid of regretting a decision. But it can be a lot worse to regret a decision you never even made. At least do it so you don’t have to worry.
Amy Schumer (comedian, writer, actress, producer)
Oh heck, yes. Do not let anyone — haters on the Internet, the media, toxic friends — define your self-worth. That is not their job. It is your job. So don’t let yourself down!
Gloria Vanderbilt (artist, author, actress)
Listen, I know it’s hard out there, especially in this age of social media: It’s easy to get envious or jealous of other people’s success stories, even people you consider friends! But their success doesn’t take away from yours. We’re making enough space in this world for everyone to have success. Let’s build each other up, not tear each other down, because there’s only a good outcome.
Oprah Winfrey (philanthropist, actress, producer)
Oprah quotes are like chicken soup to me: they tend to cure whatever ailment I have. But seriously, she’s offering solid advice here. There is absolutely no reason to let anyone drag you down. Do you feel you’re friends with someone out of obligation or because of a shared history, but not because they actually enrich or add anything positive to your life? Why are you doing that to yourself?
Nicole Richie (fashion designer, author, actress, Pearl xChange founder)
Please, don’t be afraid to be you. There’s only one of you out there. We need you! I don’t know who you are, reader, but if you’re reading this, please trust me on this one: Life is happier if you’re being your true self. Don’t deny who you are. Embrace it. Celebrate. That’s empowerment.